Parent Coaching Part II
Coaches are also keen to stress that parent coaching is about ensuring the well-being of the parent, rather than focusing on the child. If the parents are happy and secure, their children will automatically feel safe. Parent coaches can help parents crack negative parenting patterns, understand their child’s developmental stages. Main issue is that parents are not being confident in their own behavior! They’re not sure if they’re doing their job well enough, and this insecurity can be taken advantage of by their children. So coaches try to teach parents relationship skills which will help them respond well to their children. Coaches also stress how important it is for parents to have time for them – leave the washing-up till the next day and relax in the evening. If you’re constantly trying to be perfect something’s got to give, whether it’s your health or your temper. Families are scattered across the globe and the network of community is frequently weakened or lost through separation, divorce, relocation, job demands and other changes. Even when you do have close access to family members who have "been-there-done-that", you may not get the best advice from them. Best friends or parents may think they know what’s best for you, but they often promote their own staunch, old-fashioned opinions without considering the child’s personality, long-term goals or other factors in a situation. These difficulties indicate an area where coaching is needed, and where you may become proactive by teaching your children to make decisions using their best judgment and problem solving skills. Parent coaching educate them by setting and defending our own boundaries and by negotiating and accepting the boundaries of our siblings or playmates. A parent’s job is not to solve children’s problems, but to teach them how to make compromises and solve problems on their own. The aim of coaching is to allow children to take control of their lives and their learning, to think beyond the present and instant gratification, and realize they are responsible for the impact their decisions have upon themselves, the ecosystem and others. Coaching provides parents with an opportunity:
- to gain skills and knowledge to face change with confidence,
- to discuss strategies to deal with the challenges that modern day parents face,
- to become observers of their own behavior as we can only change what we notice,
- to make choices about changing their way of being,
- to put steps into place to approach their relationship with their children differently,
- to be accountable to themselves for the changes they wish to make,
- to maintain close family relationships, which in our constantly changing world are more important than ever.
We will become a far more positive society when reaching out for support to help us deal with modern day parenting challenges is seen as a healthy thing to do instead of a sign of weakness. After all it is our next generation we are talking about here and they deserve the very best start in life that we as parents can give them. Are you a ‘Parent Coach’? Are you a business personal or professional coach? we would like to hear from you, write us at admin [at] contemporaryva [dot] com Professional-Coaches.com
Related Articles:
- Parent Coaching Part I
- Teenage Coaching
- When Good Help is Bad
- What is family coaching about?
- Skills Coaching
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